It’s obvious that there’s no handbook for parenting is there? No matter how many books and articles we read, we can still feel clueless and alone in the process. While there may not be a clear right or wrong parenting advice, there are ways we can be better parents for our kiddos. Taking the time out to listen to them and being patient when they don’t listen to you is key to a positive family relationship. While no parent is perfect, we’ve outlined some advice from psychologists on how to parent your kiddos more effectively.
For a lot of parents, every day is a new day when it comes to parenting styles. Maybe yesterday you over-reacted to something that you usually don’t make a big deal. Rules change depending on how you feel or whats going on during the day. There’s no debate that parenting is difficult, but try your best to be consistent in your values and rules. Giving your kiddos stability in knowing what to expect is super important, especially is developmental stages.
Put Bribery Aside
As difficult as it may be, don’t bribe your kiddos to get them to do what you want. That includes toys, money or even candy. Rewarding good behavior is not a bad thing and you should always take the chance to celebrate your kiddos when they deserve it. However, when you constantly award your kiddos with their favorite toys, they’ll come to expect a reward everytime you ask them to do something.
Use Immediate Reinforcement
Immediate reinforcement has an incredible power, for both kiddos and adults. You stick to a diet, see immediate results and have the motivation to see it through to the end. So easy right? So why not do the same thing when it comes to parenting? Instead of promising a reward on Saturday for a good day at school on Monday, try to give them something to look forward to immediately. Reinforcement is most effective when immediately paired with the appropriate behavior.
Kids make us mad. They deliberately disobey us, ignore us, and laugh when we’re trying to have a serious discussion. As much as you want to scream, try your absolute hardest to control your emotions! When you react over-emotionally it gives your kiddos intense control and satisfaction. Try your best to keep your cool and avoid a meltdown in the process!
As much as we love our kiddos we have to remain strong and stand our ground. Most importantly, we have to reward good behavior and punish bad behavior, every time. No one ever said parenting would be easy, but it sure is worth it! What are some of your favorite tidbits of great parenting advice? Leave your comments below!